Hello friends who have been asking for this, and those of you stumbled upon this here you go………..
Recently a friend of mine suggested I try eHarmony. At first I thought, yeah because that has worked so well for me in the past. I will admit I have tried other online dating sites and Yahoo, is a free getting laid service. I will admit, that this was how I meet the love of my life, but for those of you who know me, know how that ended. However, he was the only one who wasn’t trying to get me in bed five minutes after meeting me. I also tried Match.com and it was okay. I meet someone, and he dropped I love you into a month of dating and… I was out. I mean come on let’s not jump the gun, we have only know each other a month. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but I personally don’t fall that fast. Online dating does work; I have meet people who it has worked for, and some who have had the same luck as myself. Therefore, last night I wasn’t sleeping and we all know what happens when we can’t sleep. We find ourselves lying in bed, thinking over our life and trying to formulate a new plan of action. In my planning stages at 3am, I decided yeah l’ll check this eHarmony thing out, and if this doesn’t work, well I’m just screwed. Picture this 3am in the morning, no much sleep, formulating my new plan to get a man. First I head over to their site and it’s draws you in with the wording and coloring, (mind you no sleep is like, kind of being drunk) and the happy couple smiling, as if life couldn’t be more blissful. The next step is to fill out a physiological profile. Okay, I’m game, but as I, start doing it, and it is very general questions. If any of you have taken one you know, but those of you haven’t it’s, a questioner that ask questions like; are you quick to anger, do you thing people are out to get you, and you have a scale of not at all to very much. Then there are the one word questions like; spirituality, selfishness, adventurous, spontaneous, and so forth…. At this point, I thinking what if the man or woman filling this out is crazy, and knows how to answer these questions to appear like a good match. I mean let’s be honest on a computer crazy can hide! Anyway and hour later I finish the physiological profile and I’m getting excited to see based on my answers what kind of person they think is right for me. But, before they take me to my matches pages they take me to the page on the site where you can sign up to respond and see who’s viewed you etc…..As it turns out you do get don’t really get to view your matches for free. All you get is a person’s name, their location and a few tid bits of info, on your match. HUH!!!!! You mean I sat in front of my computer at 3 in the morning, for over any hour an all I get is a name, age and some info. As it turns out for one month you can pay 59.95, and find out the right man for your, or if that’s not enough time you can get a trial offer in the first 7 days of sign up for 3 months at the low price of 24.95. The highest was 23.95 for twelve months, billed in on installment of 287.40. I about choked at these prices, I mean come on pay to meet someone! I guess what I want to know is do I get a refund if Mr. Wonderful is Mr. Crazy or Mr. Asshole? I mean that is a fair question and should be included in their fine print.
I guess what got me to thinking, was why and when did someone say pay this amount take a test and we guarantee you will meet the person right for you! ****cough, cough…bullshit**** I remember my mom years ago payed to place an ad in the penny saver to meet a man. I myself refuse to pay to meet someone. I mean what happen to the old-fashion way of he sees me and has to cross a busy road just to get my number. On the other hand, what about friends introducing you, that’s how my mom met my step dad. What about the singles mingles, or parent without partner dances? It’s like if you don’t sign up for and online dating site, then you won’t date or meet anyone. Call me old-fashion, a hopeless romantic, but there is something to be said for meeting a person face to face and getting to know them. Yeah I know well you can do that through the dating site. Sure after we spend constant hours IM, emailing back and forth till one person say’s “hey want to meet, in person?” You agree and come to find out there isn’t an ounce of chemistry, and their picture looked nothing like them. Talk about a letdown, that’s why I say let’s go back to the old way of meeting them on the street, through friends, singles groups, or heck even at my kids sporting event. There is something special about locking eyes with someone you know nothing about, talking for hours, and then exchanging numbers, and progressing from there. Couldn’t it be said that this is just high priced prostitution; I mean it’s not the same thing but essentially, I’m paying for a service to meet someone, which sounds a lot like prostitution. Why should I spend my hard-earned dollars on a dating site, to only be let down? I know eHarmony get results, or so they tell us on their ads, but what about the people who don’t meet anyone, or their perfect match is on the other side of the state. Yet, Match.com says you’ll meet someone six months guaranteed, or your next six months is free. Thanks match.com, I know can sleep knowing if I don’t meet someone in six months you’re going to give me a return on my investment. As if, I don’t have enough to worry about trying to meet someone online. I however meet someone in the first week, and got off cause again, I don’t believe in paying to get someone to date me. After last night I have made a choice to go back to the old fashion methods, I want to meet someone through friends; I want to go to parents without partner dance. That way I at least know what I’m getting from the start.
Well there it is, my take on online dating, you can try it if you’re so inclined, heck, some of you may have, and it worked. Either way it is an age-old dilemma for all of us single folks, to pay or not to pay to get a date that is the question of the 21st century.
